From the very first chapter, authors Timothy S. Lane and 

Paul David Tripp drop the masks of “relationship experts” and “got-it-together professionals” to honestly speak of the difficulties and restoration they have encountered in their own friendship. By admitting the reality of their own struggles and need for grace, Tim and Paul inform readers up front that their new book, RELATIONSHIPS: A Mess Worth Making (New Growth Press, January 2007), is not theoretical, but personal and experiential. 

With transparent candor, the authors admit, “We are not saying that we are heroes of relationships. No, the opposite is true. We would like readers, through this book, to look through the shattered glass of our sin and struggle and see the rescuing glory of an ever-present and still-redeeming Christ.”

While skillfully identifying the deeper issues that keep relationships less than they are designed to be, Tim and Paul also show readers how to experience the other side of relationships as well. They convincingly testify of the power of God’s presence to bring believers to the place where:
 

• Conflicts actually get resolved
• Tough conversations turn out positive
• Forgiveness is granted and real love is expressed and shared
• Casual relationships mature into deep friendships
• Weaknesses are overlooked and strengths are applauded
• People are honest without being mean

A book about relationships, written within the context of their own friendship, Tim and Paul’s new offering is straightforward about the relational disappointments that we all suffer. But they are also optimistic about the power of grace to redeem and restore our relationships. Rather than presenting new or sophisticated techniques to make relationships flourish, the authors instead focus on the basic character qualities that can only be formed in the heart by the gospel. “We are called to be people of great character so that when we do come in contact with the world our character shapes and influences those around us. Even though relationships are messy, they are also what God uses to rescue us from ourselves,” say Tim and Paul.

© Copyright 2012 by Timothy S. Lane and Paul David Tripp. Reprinted with permission by New Growth Press. All rights reserved.