Do you know me?, the email began, sparking tremors of fear that turned into a full quake of panic when William Dameron discovered that his selfie had been stolen by strangers. On social networks and dating sites, his image and identity --- a 40-year-old straight white male --- had been used to hook countless women into believing in lies of love and romance. Was it all an ironic cosmic joke? Almost a decade prior, William himself had been living a lie that had lasted for more than 20 years. His secret? He was a gay man, a fact he hid from his wife and two daughters for almost as long as he had hidden it from himself.