Missing Sam
Review
Missing Sam
All married couples have arguments. But what happens when your spouse disappears shortly after that spat? That's the beginning of acclaimed author Thrity Umrigar's latest novel, MISSING SAM. Aliya and Sam (short for Samantha) have been married for years and live a comfortable life in their Cleveland suburb. But after a party brings past irritations to the surface, they argue. Sam goes for a run the next morning and doesn't come back.
Ali makes mistake after mistake. She thinks that she has to wait 48 hours to report Sam missing to the police, and she deletes the nasty texts they sent each other after the party because she doesn't want the authorities to think she did anything wrong. As the days turn into weeks, the truths about friends and neighbors, and even clients, come to light. The real racism and discrimination that many feel against gay people and people of color rear its ugly face.
"Umrigar's writing is as lyrical and lovely as always in this powerful, impactful story.... There's a lot to unpack, consider and discuss. So, in essence, MISSING SAM is a perfect book club book."
Both women are estranged from their families. Sam's father was abusive to her mother and to her. She's held a lot of anger because her mother always seemed to choose him over her, and she has no desire to have a relationship with him. Ali's mother died when she was young, and her father remarried someone who was very different from her mother. It's been difficult for her to feel any connection with her stepmother, Yasmin, especially when the very religious Muslim woman is unable to accept that Ali is married to another woman.
Sam is a college professor, and Ali is an interior designer. The repercussions from Sam's disappearance are both immediate and long-lasting. One of Sam's students posts a nasty comment when Ali is out with friends who insisted she accompany them to an event instead of sitting home grieving and worrying. The post goes viral. This hateful message casts doubt on Ali's innocence and her supposed lack of grief over the missing Sam. Ali's clients wish her the best as they cancel their projects. And the worst part is not knowing what happened to Sam. There are no witnesses, cameras, clues or any other information that could shed light on her whereabouts.
Umrigar creates characters who are relatable and whose lives showcase the difficulty many have with people from a different culture or religion, or who don't mirror what they consider "normal." In MISSING SAM, she takes it to an even more granular level, as we see Ali and her culture clash with her stepmother. Both are Muslim, although Ali is struggling with her father's increased interest in religion after he marries Yasmin. And when Ali visits India and sees firsthand the lengths to which gay people must go to keep their sexuality hidden, she is appalled.
It's almost overwhelming to try to think of all the themes and messages that emerge in this brilliant novel. At the beginning and throughout the book, both women ruefully contemplate the fight that precipitated Sam's running alone. It occurred because of each woman's insecurity and childhood trauma. That's a theme that most people can relate to --- how our personal quirks and traits can make us more susceptible to certain negative behaviors of those we love. We expect more from those to whom we are closest, and they are the only ones on whom we can take out our frustrations.
Ali finds out which neighbors are true friends and which are not. She bears the brunt of those who view her and her marriage through the warped lens of Islamophobia and homophobia, including her own stepmother, who refers to Sam as her "friend" and refuses to use the word "spouse."
Umrigar's writing is as lyrical and lovely as always in this powerful, impactful story. It's a novel that unveils the hidden biases and hatred that some people feel for those who are different in any way. But it's also about women taking back the narrative and regaining power over those who would seek to oppress. There's a lot to unpack, consider and discuss. So, in essence, MISSING SAM is a perfect book club book.
Reviewed by Pamela Kramer on January 30, 2026
Missing Sam
- Publication Date: January 27, 2026
- Genres: Domestic Thriller, Fiction, Suspense, Thriller
- Hardcover: 320 pages
- Publisher: Algonquin Books
- ISBN-10: 1643757628
- ISBN-13: 9781643757629


