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His Brain, Her Brain: How Divinely Designed Differences Can Strengthen Your Marriage


His Brain, Her Brain: How Divinely Designed Differences Can Strengthen Your Marriage

Married couple Walt and Barb Larimore tackle the newest trend in marriage communication skills by delving into the brain differences between males and females. Calling upon the studies of other experts in this field, the Larimores offer Christian believers even more rounded explanations of this intriguing study as they bring in the divinely designed brain physiology within the minds of women and men. With much tongue-in-cheek humorous asides, the text is written in a lively, engaging format while simultaneously providing both technical and philosophical insights on the nature of each sex's brain and its development.

Opening with the actual scientific discoveries of the brain, the Larimores share that there is a veritable mountain of brain research from the last two decades that explains how dramatic the differences between male and female brains are in anatomical, chemical, hormonal and physiological ways. These differences likewise affect the emotions, thinking and behavior of children as well as adults. As Christians, the Larimores are convinced that every one of these brain differences is "divinely designed" by our Creator and not simply a result of nature or nurture, or inborn or infused, as some secular experts believe. With this divinely designed confidence, as cited in the Psalm 139, the Larimores offer both sexes the positive and uplifting confidence that although men and women are very different, God created them to complement one another.

Readers will learn about the ins and outs of brain anatomy (offered in simple layperson's language) and how brain chemistry affects the way men and women react to and respond to their created world via their natural senses of sight, smell, hearing, touch and taste. These explained differences in systemizing and empathizing, differences in spatial skills, different responses to stress, different emotional responses, differences in multitasking, and differences in intuition all serve to better educate one sex with the other, thus providing increased opportunity for deeper understanding and mutual respect.

The Larimores delve into communication sore spots with their usual aplomb and provide comical narratives to which all readers (male or female) will readily relate. Men, say the authors, speak their care for their wives and loved ones by a "vocabulary of action" that works out in real life as doing things, sharing activities, expressing feelings through inarticulate gifts, favors and physical courtesies. Women express their feelings of love best through the language of relationship with others and often speak via indirect talk that confuses and frustrates men, but by which their female counterpart friends intuitively understand. One helpful tip, the authors’ offer is for women to give their men a time, a place and a plan when requesting time to this appeals to the man's systematic mind which compartmentalizes and deals with one item at a time.

In the remaining text, readers will appreciate the Larimores’ generous study of the sexual differences and needs between men and women in relation to their brain uniqueness and how respect (for men) and love (for women) play a major role in their sexual fulfillment. From the outset, readers will find great value and encouragement in this helpful text. The Larimore's offer their fresh take on this current hot topic of brain differences by comprehensively including God and His divine design into their work.

Reviewed by Michele Howe on January 15, 2008

His Brain, Her Brain: How Divinely Designed Differences Can Strengthen Your Marriage
by Walter L. Larimore, MD and Barb Larimore

  • Publication Date: January 15, 2008
  • Genres: Christian, Love & Marriage
  • Paperback: 240 pages
  • Publisher: Zondervan
  • ISBN-10: 031024028X
  • ISBN-13: 9780310240280